tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post6997045480153197195..comments2023-06-01T05:55:51.210-07:00Comments on DUNHAVEN PLACE: Musings of a Hopeless Romantic IdealistHeidihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12660156433881882098noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-22616207324538623442010-06-30T17:18:20.839-07:002010-06-30T17:18:20.839-07:00I adore you. You are so amazing. I'm so very...I adore you. You are so amazing. I'm so very grateful to know you.Dedeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10155503562900208564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-21236941112021663962010-06-18T23:47:59.039-07:002010-06-18T23:47:59.039-07:00PS: I think your hair is great! From your blog av...PS: I think your hair is great! From your blog avatar/photo, it suits you well.<br /><br />PPS: Have you ever tried hot rollers? Or spiral rolling your hair with a flat iron (my latest flirtation with vanity). Ten minute rocket to awesomesauce locks. Beware though, it's addicting...<br />:)*https://www.blogger.com/profile/06484208765656281917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-55421078313604698512010-06-18T23:46:34.234-07:002010-06-18T23:46:34.234-07:00I agree with JustRandi's quote: choice is what...I agree with JustRandi's quote: choice is what is the difference between cynics and optimists.<br /><br />That said, at my ripe age of not quite 40 but nearer to that than 30, I consider myself an optimistic realist, which is probably kin to your balanced realism.<br /><br />It is a good place to be, I think. And the hopeless romantic of my youth still hasn't died yet. She surfaces in my dreams and writing, as does my hopeless vanity.<br /><br />Heidi, are you sure we're not somehow related? :)*https://www.blogger.com/profile/06484208765656281917noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-88063397380978076132010-06-16T18:54:03.342-07:002010-06-16T18:54:03.342-07:00Heidi, this was so beautifully put. I wholehearted...Heidi, this was so beautifully put. I wholeheartedly agree with you. Better to like Anne of Green Gables than the snooty neighbor lady (whose name I can't remember right now).Melissahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17162550253703038825noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-75562092698915518082010-06-15T19:34:04.436-07:002010-06-15T19:34:04.436-07:00I loved this!
I have my pessimistic days, but mos...I loved this!<br /><br />I have my pessimistic days, but mostly it's not in my nature. But the older I get, I do feel that bit of realism creeping right in, and it's okay. I'm okay with life, even if it isn't quite what I had envisioned for myself.<br /><br />And my hair? We wont' even talk about it.Lara Neveshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08351324888724799014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-43592603998540323312010-06-15T10:45:30.757-07:002010-06-15T10:45:30.757-07:00I'm mostly optimistic... but some days it'...I'm mostly optimistic... but some days it's harder to be that way then others!<br /><br />Beautiful house... I need one of those.Shelle-BlokThoughtshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05118555873275829720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-78005167818283296572010-06-15T08:18:57.074-07:002010-06-15T08:18:57.074-07:00That last part made me weepy. Letting go of that i...That last part made me weepy. Letting go of that idealism and having it creep up in a longing sort of way...well, it's just hard. <br /><br />And you. Are inspiring.Heather of the EOhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14607422301391841377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-39484976908314459772010-06-14T22:44:57.309-07:002010-06-14T22:44:57.309-07:00I like that image of your house. Since it's ho...I like that image of your house. Since it's home, a dwelling place, a reflection of self...it's very apt.<br /><br />I started life with great caution. I hoarded and prepared and expected the worst - just in case. And then far too late in life (but you know - it's never too late), I somehow got past that and just hoped. My heart gets broken far too easily and disappointment is more frequent than I'd like - but the moments of pleasant surprise and every once in a while, flat out triumph? They are only possible with that risk - and all the sweeter for it.Kate Coveny Hoodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18006589284938683965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-42905173373157095232010-06-14T21:36:27.560-07:002010-06-14T21:36:27.560-07:00I am killing myself here trying my darndest to rem...I am killing myself here trying my darndest to remember your lovely eyebrows, but...<br /><br />Somethings are just not going to change just because we sit around and fuss about them. I like your optimism, and the way you write about it.Kazzyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04411131948607000725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-77203803980938154192010-06-14T18:50:09.961-07:002010-06-14T18:50:09.961-07:00What a beautiful post. I loved the little saying ...What a beautiful post. I loved the little saying at the end. We HAVE to somehow hold with all our might that glimmer of "romantic idealism" or we could be destroyed.<br />Better to believe....better to love.....better to trust....better to give people that benefit of doubt.....Much BETTER then being a cranky cynical old lady who thinks Nothing has brought her joy.<br />I'd rather be stepped on....then surrender my dreams and idealism.<br /><br />I have been know to be a bit of a Pollyanna in my day.<br />so hang tough girl...don't let go, not completelywendyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13619293936418976914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-36569630690271244192010-06-14T18:47:17.077-07:002010-06-14T18:47:17.077-07:00I can't say if I'm an optimist or a pessim...I can't say if I'm an optimist or a pessimist, but I am forgetful which saves me a lot of heartache because I can't remember if I've been offended or not. I can't even remember if I have any childhood fantasies that have been thwarted by life.<br /><br />Except for maybe I can't believe I married someone who can't dance.....<br /><br />But his other unexpected talents are so much better!Janellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14336321282330362007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-16455798249952060962010-06-14T14:08:41.012-07:002010-06-14T14:08:41.012-07:00I think you are really right. I am a recovering p...I think you are really right. I am a recovering pessimist. Being an optimist and idealist is much, much better-much healthier. Oddly enough, I'm not disappointed as much as I would think I would be. Yes, it happens, but not as often as the pessimist says.Braden Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08543019025938404436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-29882766586397793622010-06-14T13:31:05.957-07:002010-06-14T13:31:05.957-07:00Beauteous. What a lovely perspective to have arri...Beauteous. What a lovely perspective to have arrived at. Worth the trip indeed.Kimberly Vanderhorsthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01653757517652257445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-11447156118321377782010-06-14T13:28:48.004-07:002010-06-14T13:28:48.004-07:00It would be nice if the world were full of more id...It would be nice if the world were full of more idealists. You're still positive and wonderful to be around---and you're not moping about expecting handouts. It's refreshing to read and hear about:)Barbaloothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01541675474218507411noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-31842637685062298362010-06-14T13:02:07.490-07:002010-06-14T13:02:07.490-07:00I remember standing on the sidewalk in Trenton, NJ...I remember standing on the sidewalk in Trenton, NJ holding a crying baby after I had just been knocked to the ground and had my bag stolen by two young men and remembering a talk given by Boyd K. Packer in which he said he would rather be taken advantage of by some people than go through life not trusting anyone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-75520485726580704532010-06-14T12:54:13.982-07:002010-06-14T12:54:13.982-07:00First of all, your opening paragraphs were thoroug...First of all, your opening paragraphs were thoroughly entertaining. Like a puzzle or a riddle. With plenty of parentheses. I love those. Funny stuff. <br /><br />You're totally right about being an idealist being better than being cynical. My husband is quite cynical (although I mentioned it ONCE and he thought it was soooo rude of me to say, but it's really very true) and refuses to allow people to hurt him, because he is easily hurt. I on the other hand don't think people owe me very much, so they can't really hurt me, as I mostly don't expect a lot, I guess, and I just like people and want to get to know them and not try to hide things about myself or anything.<br /><br />I'll bet as you get older you will return to those happier days. It will be different, but you will definitely have fewer cares. And if I haven't said it before, I'll say it now. I KNOW you will find it all worthwhile one day (I'm sure there are days that you do already, but I mean REALLY worthwhile). I'll bet Someone is watching you through every trial and adding new pretty furniture and knick knacks to your mansion with each one you pass.LisAwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03299284773832500834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-80614979987658869082010-06-14T12:47:54.280-07:002010-06-14T12:47:54.280-07:00I prefer to look on the bright side. It helps you...I prefer to look on the bright side. It helps you get through life a lot easier.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05904475961832992495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-52244640760579900022010-06-14T12:23:05.069-07:002010-06-14T12:23:05.069-07:00I think I am innately optimistic, with a healthy d...I think I am innately optimistic, with a healthy dose of realism. I work with a coworker who has a permanent set of rose colored glasses. Which, for a social worker, working with teenagers who will take advantage of you in a heartbeat, doesn't really bode well.Kristina P.https://www.blogger.com/profile/16144488639100871226noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7015651593178985156.post-83925751703473697632010-06-14T12:21:09.924-07:002010-06-14T12:21:09.924-07:00I've always wondered what makes the difference...I've always wondered what makes the difference between older women who turn cynical (and mean) and those who stay optimistic. <br />I think I've figured out that it's a choice. And not an easy one, some days.<br />Good for you for making the choice. I completely applaud you!!Randihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11851220760568533019noreply@blogger.com