Monday Always Gets Such A Bad Rap  

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I’m feeling like an utter failure today. I have been a bad bloggist. I haven’t been keeping up with all of your posts or responding to your comments in my comment box. I still haven't mailed anything won by anyone in my giveaways (I blame the paranoia I’ve been experiencing since my friendly small town post office became the scene of a brutal random murder a while back). Worse, I fear the quality of the posts I have been writing has declined. And today, well, I have utterly nothing amusing to say (it could have something to do with my still-not-vanished “it’s-not-swine-flu”, the mental health crisis of one of my children over the weekend and the death of a beloved member of my church congregation).

Novel-writing day tomorrow will be pre-empted by a funeral (tho I confess my lot is much easier to bear than that of the deceased’s family) and the fact that I have been a very bad writer (I am still about 5,000 words behind on my Miss D Two goal) as well as a very bad mom (major mental health crises are not the work of one day and I did not see it coming—plus, the Big Guy has no clean clothing, it’s past time to do grocery shopping and no one has done the dishes all weekend) on top of being a very bad bloggist is making me feel quite low.

Thank you so much to those who left comments on my latest posts or have sent emails this lately. Your words made my rough weekend much easier to bear. I appreciate each and every one of you so much! Go forth and have a great, sunny, wonderful spring day for me!

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48 wise, witty and wonderful comments

Heidi - you're not even in the running for Bad mom of the year...

Everyone deserves to take a little break from responsibility - unfortunately when us Moms do that the world falls apart - dishes, laundry, groceries, and the scummy wax in my daughter's ears are my current testament to that!

I made a card for a friend this weekend... and if I weren't a horrible procrastinator I'd send it to you instead... it says "To thine own self be kind"...

you're awesome, and we'll wait patiently for a wonderful witty post, for now you can just focus on You and Yours.

May 18, 2009 at 11:01 AM

Heids, you know I love ya. You're a fabulous mother, blogger, and writer! (I know because I'm finally able to get back to reading my secret copy of Miss D 2!)
I'm so sorry about the illness and loss of a friend. Just know that you're in my thoughts and that you're thought well of. Love you Heids!

May 18, 2009 at 11:05 AM

Ebb and flow...that's how life works. Sorry about your rough weekend...it will get better!

May 18, 2009 at 11:08 AM

Aw Heidi...I think if anyone should win the Bad Mommy award, I should..lol. You are doing way better than I do..my laundry room is up to the ceiling with dirty clothes mixed up with clean clothes I just washed and dried so then I have no choice but to redo them again...I detest laundry. I'm not even going to bother mentioning my dishes..lol.

My condolences to the family with the passing of their loved one.

Don't worry too much about not responding to our comments, we understand. You need to take care of yourself, don't burn yourself out. I think you're doing a great job as far as the blogging go and you are a GREAT mom. I read your guest post on MMB and I just love it. Your BG is such a lucky guy to have a mom like you and I'm sure he's very happy you're his mom. Take it easy girl! We're all rooting for ya!!

May 18, 2009 at 11:12 AM

Post office paranoia is a common affliction, I have it, and I haven't even had a tragedy at my post office.

Sorry about your weekend. Feeling overwhelmed stinks. I hate it when something comes up with the kids that I should have seen coming, the guilt is horrible, but the truth is, sometimes that's the way it goes. It's obvious you are a good caring mother, I'm sure things will work out.

For the record I have not noticed any decline in the quality of your posts, I think they have all been top notch!

May 18, 2009 at 11:19 AM

Be nice to yourself today! We understand and hope you take time to take care of yourself. No one can 100% all of the time. It is just not human.

May 18, 2009 at 11:31 AM

You're a great mom, and you will get back up to speed on your writing goals. Hang in there!

May 18, 2009 at 11:34 AM

Oh, I feel your stress! I've been forced to just put blogging on the back burner, though I have been peeking in on people. Sometimes life takes over. I hope you can take YOUR life back over! Wish I could come and wash your dishes. (Really).

May 18, 2009 at 11:40 AM

I have not noticed sucky posts!

Hang in there. We stil love you.

May 18, 2009 at 11:40 AM

I so understand feeling like you have a million things to do and that you can't seem to do any of them well... But you really are a good mother and you can't possibly always see things coming. Even if you were at home doing nothing but housekeeping, you would be busy with that and miss things. It's impossible to be everything to everyone, so I think we should all be proud of being at least "something" to everyone!

May 18, 2009 at 11:48 AM

Do what you love when you want and let the rest fall into place.

May 18, 2009 at 11:50 AM

let the stress go. it makes i worse. be in the moment of ever moment. i'm trying to figure out if i can make it tomorrw. my heart is sad, but yet peaceful knowing he is in no more pain. xoxo

May 18, 2009 at 12:07 PM

Here is one of my new favorite scriptures to ease your mind:

Also regard not your stuff; for the good of all the land of Egypt is yours. Genesis 45:20

May 18, 2009 at 12:08 PM

We all have days/weeks like this, don't we? Maybe if you take the word "should" out of your vocabulary, you can focus on what you need right now. Good luck Heidi!

May 18, 2009 at 12:12 PM

Oh I'm so sorry to hear you're having such a rough spell. You are not a bad blogger or a bad mom: you're human! You know, lots of grocery stores deliver. Check it out and see if one does in your area - then at least you could cross that off your list without leaving the house. Best of luck, sorry to hear about your loss...and just come back to blogging when you have more time and energy. We'll still be here! Take care of yourself!

May 18, 2009 at 12:29 PM

Don't feel like you have to live up to anything for us (or just me, I guess I shouldn't speak for everyone?), we all love you no matter what, and there has been no suckiness (there I go with the "we" business)! I've been cutting back lately too, you just have to do what you have to do! We love you! OH, I mean *I* love you! :D

May 18, 2009 at 2:07 PM

I'm feeling ya. I'm sick AGAIN. Although I guess that's better than being continually sick for a long period of time. I'm so sorry.

I hope things get better for you. And the mental health crisis ends sooner than later. Those can be more trying than the physical health crises! Good luck! I'll be thinking of you.

May 18, 2009 at 2:23 PM

I still think you're great. And hey, whenever you're feeling down just remind yourself that you have a PUBLISHED book! That's kind of amazing.

May 18, 2009 at 2:24 PM

USPS.com, baby! Mail those darn prizes from the comfort of your very own home! I swear by it!

Otherwise, you need to take a serious DEEEEEEEP breath. Let the oxygen do the work for a few minutes. Do a yoga pose. Eat some ice cream straight from the carton. Better yet, stick your finger in it.

Okay, now you're excused to get back to work! As much as I can't wait for your sequel, I can wait for your sequel if it means a little less stress for you! ;-)

May 18, 2009 at 2:33 PM

Psh. Whatev. All these people are being all nice and forgiving and sunshiney. Doggoneit, Heidi, I expect more from you. You've let me down. Are you NOT wearing your supergirl undies? Crimeny. If' I've told you once, I've told you a thousand times that you HAVE to wear them ALL. THE. TIME. They are the secret source to our Heidi Power.

;-) Mwah.

May 18, 2009 at 2:58 PM

Monday is just a bad way to spend 1/7 of your life, isn't it?

I think you're great Heidi. We do the best we can with what we have every single day.

May 18, 2009 at 3:20 PM

If I were your neighbor I would have your little guy over to play with my kids, and then I would come help with your dishes, or buy you a matinee ticket to go see a movie, or make you dinner, or... something.

Sorry you are in a funk. And sorry about your ward member. Unexpected?

Take care, and a little less blog guilt, please! :)

May 18, 2009 at 3:27 PM

Hey, we've all been there. You don't have to be funny and on the ball 100% of the time to still be 100% fabulous.

Hang in there.

May 18, 2009 at 3:39 PM

Ah shucks, Miss Heidi. I'm sorry. I've been a bad bloggest too. I totally hear you. But I'm more sorry about your sickness and your son and your crisis and your bereavement. I didn't even know about your bad weekend. That's how bad I have been this weekend.

SIGH!

It's time to slow down, eh? For all of us.

May 18, 2009 at 5:05 PM

Just don't say it could be worse. Really. Because then your dishwasher catches on fire, you get no sleep at all as one child after another screams their misery into the night, then you get to deliver a dead dog to it's sobbing owner, and then your favorite neighbor is taken away in an ambulance. Wait...no. That was my last 24 hours.

Sorry about that.

Heidi. You. Are. Awesome! Kind-hearted and funny. You are one of my favorite people. Set the reset button in your life. Let Miss D's word count start over. You are not behind: you are continuing.

I hope you feel better. My standard advice for everything--including stress--rest, plenty of liquids, moderate quantities of protein at regular intervals. Breathe deeply and regularly. Watch a comedy. A really good one.

And I am a way worse blogger than you are!

May 18, 2009 at 5:26 PM

You are fine. I enjoy blogging that is real. And real life is ... sometimes it just is what it is! At least, your life is NEVER dull (and neither is your blog). :)

May 18, 2009 at 5:27 PM

I can completely relate. I've had a death in the family, a funeral, a stupid cold virus, and just overall blues to contend with too. And I discovered that it's perfectly okay to scale back on blogging when life isn't feeling great. That's just the way it is.

Hugs,
Cindy

May 18, 2009 at 6:43 PM

What Kazzy said.

May 18, 2009 at 7:04 PM

Don't feel too bad. It took me like 2 months to mail out the giveaway that I did many moons ago.

I ditto some of your feelings. The Blahs are just...blahs! Maybe do a dish or two (it always makes me feel a bit better) throw jeans and a t-shirt in the laundry for the big guy and get back in bed ASAP.

May 18, 2009 at 8:27 PM

How rude of life to get in the way...I have no idea what that is like...HA! I'd offer to do the dishes for you .... but by the time I get there they'd probably be done. I hope things get better. Thanks for your support! You're the best!

May 18, 2009 at 11:29 PM

What every one else says. They all said it so much better than I can think up right now.

Big hug. Sometimes we just have to hang on and endure and wait for things to be better.

May 18, 2009 at 11:32 PM

Oh and big wave to April who is right above me. I feel like I am on the Brady Bunch or something.

May 18, 2009 at 11:33 PM

What are you talking about?

For someone who seems to be so busy like you, you always take the time to stop at my blog. Thanks; I appreciate it.

Enjoy the sun and spring, good days are up ahead. :-)

May 19, 2009 at 6:49 AM

We are the worst in worry. Women just don't give themselves a break huh. Hang in there. I have felt the same things lately, but, you have to honor yourself sometimes.

May 19, 2009 at 8:59 AM

Bad things happening to you do not make you a bad person. Be gentle with yourself and know that you're loved.

May 19, 2009 at 9:24 AM

Prayers for you, and all the love I can possibly send through the air to your neck of the woods. It's coming!

May 19, 2009 at 9:54 AM

Thanks for putting my crappy weekend into perspective---we had no deaths or mental health crises or backlogs of novels going on so what was I complaining about?
It can only get better, right???

May 19, 2009 at 12:44 PM

I am sorry life has been so rough lately.I hope things get better soon. I just read many of the comments posted on your blog and thought how blessed you are though, to have so much friendly support. It reminds me of the saying, "Cast your bread upon the waters and it will come back to you." You have been a great friend and very supportive to others, and now when you are in need so many come to your support as well.

May 19, 2009 at 3:55 PM

I think we all have tough times like this. It will get better:)

May 19, 2009 at 4:34 PM

I took a break too :)

May 19, 2009 at 4:50 PM

sometimes there are days where we feel there is just too much on our plate. Sounds like you are experiencing that. I will be thinking of you. I think alot of us are in a bloggy blunder right now. Wanting to enjoy the outdoors and start experiencing some of "what's out there for us"
I'll be checking up on you.

May 19, 2009 at 7:01 PM

Um, that Wendy above, that was me, I was on a different account and forgot to switch. (silly me)

May 19, 2009 at 7:07 PM

I have thoroughly enjoyed your posts lately. No need to be down on yourself. I still come and read and look forward to our "time together" as I sit and read your wittiness!

Sorry to hear about the funeral. Sad, but happy. Its a major conflict of emotions, don't you think?

Buck up little camper. Can't wait to read some more from you.

May 19, 2009 at 8:52 PM

Joy-you are so right! Having so many friends who care about me is the best! Love you all!

May 20, 2009 at 7:10 AM

Aww, your the best ever!! I hope that as I am writing this you are feeling much better! We all get down sometimes, I guess that's why it's called enduring to the end, not just enjoy the journey.
I also loved all the pics of your flowers, so beautiful. You have done awesome with the small space you have.
xoxoxox

May 20, 2009 at 5:18 PM

Heidi, no worries. Just take one moment at a time. Enjoy life and things will get done little by little. You are still awesome and wonderful!

May 21, 2009 at 5:30 PM

The cycle - i think we all go through it! My house is a mess and it is making me bonkers but I'm not doing anything about it :P

May 22, 2009 at 4:44 PM

Please. You are not obligated to be SuperBlogger. Reply or don't reply, but don't worry about it. You might hate me for this (I hope not), but why would anyone go back to every comment they left at other blogs to see if the blogger responded to it? Who has that kind of time? I have 166 blogs in my reader; if I need a response, I will send an email.

May 24, 2009 at 9:45 AM

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